I've been working on and off on the Hanami stole, but not really loving the process (although I do love the lace once it's done). And just yesterday, I figured out what the problem was: markers! Not that I should have been using them, but that I shouldn't have.
I don't usually use markers in lace, but when I started Hanami I figured I might as well try them, since they seem to help other people so much. But of course I have to be different--usually I can read where I am in the pattern from the fabric I've knit already, but somehow the markers broke it up in my mind and I couldn't read it as well. Plus, slipping them (or worse, knitting the stitch before the marker together with the stitch after!) interrupted my knitting rhythm. But since I was having such a hard time keeping track of the pattern, I didn't want to take the markers out--after all, they help you keep track of the pattern!
So I finally took them out last night, and things have been going much better--if I'm remembering right, it took me more than three weeks to knit the first three repeats, then just since this time yesterday to knit the 4th!
The moral of the story: just because something is supposed to be helpful, doesn't mean it's going to help you.
Also, and this will come as no surprise to people who know me in real life, if there's a way for me to be contrary, I'll find it!